"Where is Tiffany?"

Apparently this is a question frequently asked to my roommate and others, because I'm never around. While doing my homework in my room, my room mate and our friend down the hall was reading a Vogue mag in our room, when she randomly says,
"I have a confession/observation proposition to make to you."
Okay, what could this be?
She continues on with, "We all feel like you are never here, and we don't want you to turn into Karina (her roommate who is never there because she's always with her boyfriend). We always never know where you are, and we feel like you are always just with your boyfriend all the time." Then, my roommate chimes in with, "Yeah like 50 people asked me where you were today" (obviously an exaggeration).
I was so taken back, I didn't respond for a couple seconds - I had to muster my thoughts. Finally, I replied, "You guys do realize I am a music ed major being treated like a performance major as well - I HAVE to practice on top of my 18 hour work load. I haven't even seen Tyler all week so I'm not sure what you guys are talking about."

Something like that. Anyway, I feel like they are getting mad at me because I have a boyfriend, and that I'm not hanging out with them every free second I get. Yeah - I have hung out with my boyfriend of almost a year and a half, MY BAD! I feel like only people that are actually in relationships understand the breaking and dividing of time commitments. I have so much going on; I'm balancing practicing, studying, homework, orchestra, relationships.. It's a lot to balance. I'm almost a month into school and I'm still adjusting. Tyler never gets mad when I can't see him during the week, ever. He understands I'm in class and that I have an overload of classwork. I was so insulted that my "friends" could tell me how to manage my time, saying "We don't want you to turn out like Karina"... Ok, so Karina isn't very social and her boyfriend is her life... but that is HER. That is her choice.  Who cares if she is obsessed with the t.v. show "Friends"? It' is her choice, and I don't understand why these girls have to be so critical (or just 'girl' I suppose..) of the others on this floor. I am at the dorms when no one else is, because my schedule starts early unlike theirs. They think I'm never there, but they just aren't there when I am.

Also, I haven't really felt included for a while, either. The girls are always making plans to do things together, and it's like the kind of invite that goes, "Oh, well you can come if you want" ... I am not for after-thought invites at all. If someone isn't directly inviting me or is saying "if you want" that is not exactly an invitation to me. This might all sound old fashioned or stupid, but I just think invites like that are kindof rude. Like, they didn't even think to include me in the original plan, but when they talk about it in front of me, oh okay she can come. No, not okay. And that really hurts me. They wonder why I'm not jumping for joy to hang out with them, and that's why.